Why Children Should Learn About Giving
We talk a lot about teaching kids to save and spend wisely. But there's a third piece of the money conversation that can shape a child's character in ways that outlast any savings account: learning to give. If your family uses a jar system, The Three Jar Method for Kids is a great place to make giving a built-in habit alongside saving and spending.
Generosity isn't something children are born knowing how to do. Like saving or making choices at the store, it's a skill — one that grows with practice, with modeling, and with conversations that happen early and often.
Giving Teaches Children They Are Enough
One of the quietest gifts of teaching children to give is this: it shows them they have something worth sharing. Even a child with very little learns that their dollar, their time, their kindness — it matters to someone else.
This is the opposite of scarcity thinking. Children who grow up giving tend to move through the world with more confidence, more compassion, and a deeper sense of connection to the people around them.
It Makes Money About More Than "Me"
When money is only about what a child can buy for themselves, it becomes a source of wanting — there's always something more to have. When giving is part of the picture from the beginning, money becomes a tool for doing good, not just for getting things.
This shift in how children see money is one of the most valuable things a parent or grandparent can pass on — and it's at the heart of financial literacy for kids. It doesn't require wealth. It requires intention.
Start small and let them choose. A child who gets to decide who receives their giving — an animal shelter, a food pantry, a sick classmate — feels ownership over that generosity. That ownership is what makes it stick.
Age-by-Age Ideas for Teaching Giving
Ages 3–5
- Set aside coins together in a "giving jar" — let them drop the coins in themselves.
- Bring them along to drop off a donation. Let them carry it to the door.
- Read books about kindness and sharing (Penny's episodes touch on this, too).
Ages 6–8
- Help them pick a cause that matters to them — animals, kids who don't have books, people who are hungry.
- Let them write a simple note when they donate. The act of explaining their giving deepens it.
- Talk about why your family gives. Share a real reason, not just a rule.
Ages 9–12
- Research together — look up the cause, watch a short video, learn what your giving actually does.
- Let them manage their own Give jar and make the giving decision independently.
- Invite them to participate in family giving conversations around the holidays or special occasions.
Giving Doesn't Have to Be Money
This is important for young children especially: giving doesn't always mean dollars. Time is a gift. Kindness is a gift. A drawing made for a lonely neighbor, an hour spent helping clean up after a family event, a card written to someone who is sick — these are all forms of generosity.
Teaching children to notice where they can give — not just with money but with themselves — grows a quality of heart that money can't buy.
Penny's reminder: The children who grow up in homes where giving is normal and celebrated don't just become generous adults. They become adults who feel good about the world — and their place in it. That is one of the best gifts you can give.
Making It a Family Practice
The simplest way to teach giving is to let children see you doing it. When you donate, say so. When you help a neighbor, invite your child to come along. When you make a family giving decision, include them in the conversation.
Children are always watching. When they see that giving is something the people they love do naturally — not because they have to, but because it feels right — they absorb that as part of who their family is. And eventually, part of who they are.